This week marks six months since the awesome Registrar of Births, Deaths and Marriages, Jeff Montgomery accepted my application to become a Marriage Celebrant.
In six months, I have secured 12 bookings, of which I have completed five; made lots of new friends and learnt so so much about celebrancy, writing, marketing and even a new dimension of professionalism!
Yesterday, I encountered a groom who felt quite emotional when we went through his and his wife-to-be’s script and in my head, I added that: seeing the stirring of emotions in a grown man, over the sentiment behind his ceremony script, to my list of things that give me “the feels” in this celebrant-ing journey.
This month’s blog shares with you my other reasons why I love being a celebrant.
I am surrounded by LOVE!
In my 29 years on this earth, I have seen and experienced enough bad vibes from other humans to float a small boat – although, it does pain me to know that it gets worse than what I have personally experienced!
Anyway, to meet with couples who feel that they are at a healthy and tremendously happy stage in their lives is awesome! It doesn’t even matter if they’re two chicks or two dudes or whatever either, they are in love and want to be joined in marriage. It’s all positive and magical and that is all that matters to me.
We need love, and to be constantly surrounded by it and home and in this job is AMAZING!
I am also so inspired by these lovey dovey vibes that I take them home and apply them to my own marriage… Ok not all the time, but most of the time.
My new Celebrant friends.
I love a profession where the competition can also so easily be a good mate.
I am a part of an online community where we as celebrants support each other through the difficulties we face and share our successes (and our doozies). Even cooler, the New Plymouth celebrants and I spend time together socially and have found that we have more in common with each other than our passion for Celebrant-ing.
Making new friends is the coolest!
Collaborating with other professions.
It is wonderful to get to know all of the venue bosses, cake makers, caterers, florists and photographers in my area through working with the couples. I love being able to suggest people and places, based on genuinely positive knowledge and experience.
Bring on more collaborations, I say!
And I’m just going to put it out there that I’m not in an alliance with vendors where we, in our little circle, refer each other exclusively. I spread the love, peace.
Letting my personality shine
I am a naturally vibrant person with a prominent youthful enthusiasm and I haven’t yet come across a situation in my celebrant life where these characteristics weren’t an asset to me or the couple I am providing a service to.
From the first meeting to the ceremony (and beyond), my smile is plastered on my face and we laugh and enjoy our time together. There’s no other way I’d have it!
If I ever move in to Funerals, I’ll tone down the vibrant disposition, but still know it will still, in a way, be an asset.
All the points of difference.
Last but not least, I love being involved in the different ways the ceremonies transpire – all of the scripts are so different: some people want readings, some don’t – the readings chosen are always so beautiful and full of meaning; one bride is walked down the aisle by her father, another by her children; grooms smile, grooms cry – same with brides; the colours and styles of the bridesmaids’ dresses and many more things are so vastly different!
Every ceremony is different and reflects the personalities and passions of each couple and it inspires me, every time.
There are many, many highlights about being a Celebrant, and I can’t believe that in six months, I have accumulated so many (and five is heaps!) reasons to love this job. I cannot wait for what the next six months onwards brings. No matter what, I’ll keep you informed.
If you would like any information on becoming a Celebrant, please check it out here: https://www.dia.govt.nz/diawebsite.nsf/wpg_URL/Services-Births-Deaths-and-Marriages-How-to-become-a-Celebrant?OpenDocument